Growing up, I was a chubby (ehem… ehem..), I mean a fat kid. I used to feel ashamed of myself. I never built the confidence that the other kids in class would have. Although, I was always top of my class, I was not that daring in choosing clothes. My classmates would be relaxed and confident in wearing sleeveless shirts and short skirts.
Even when I reached college, and I significantly shed all those pounds, I still wasn’t confident enough. I loved jackets and three-fourths shirts. I loved wearing sweaters to hide my arms. I guess I still thought I was that fat kid in grade school. I guess I brought all my insecurities and body issues.
Until now, with all the achievements and success with my career and mini-businesses, sometimes, I still feel insecure about my body. My husband would tell me I’m weird for seeing myself as someone who’s fat.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not anorexic at all. I know and I’m convinced that I am normal. I am healthy and I have just the right weight for my height. My body mass index also tells me I am normal. Sometimes though, even if you know you are not fat, your brain tells you the opposite. I guess I’m just scared to gain all that weight back again.
I’m writing this because I know that there are other girls or even men out there who have body issue like I do. Here are some tips to keep your mind off your issues and finally get rid of them:
1. Log down things that make you depressed about your weight. Is it after a heavy meal? Is it during family gatherings? If you know what makes you depressed, then at least you know the cause of this depression.
2. Try the scientific approach. The ideal weight, fat percentages and body mass index for each individual based on a specific height and weight is there for a reason. If you don’t know what is ‘right’ or what you should be, check these tools.
3. Listen to what other people say about you, but don’t just listen to one person. I know that sometimes it is hard to listen to family and friends, because that voice inside you is louder than their voices, but try to hear them out. If they tell you that you are too thin already and should stop losing weight, then try to heed their advice (especially if it is more than one person telling you to do so). If most of them are already concerned about you gaining weight, then there probably is a basis for that. These people love you and don’t want to put you or your health in any harm.
4. The best option if you are not sure about everything about your body, physical appearance, etc. is tp go to a dietician to seek for advice. I, personally hate doctors, but it is important to seek medical help if you cannot control depression and your emotions already.
Now when you are sure on what to do, achieve that goal and build that confidence. I know you want to see yourself wearing that sleeveless shirt!